I don’t know, I just want to talk to you about this, it’s nothing other than patriarchy. Women are totally enslaved, this world have all the good things to talk about, whether it comes to pets or queer people but very less content is available for women. A few days back my father was listening to folklore where woman was described as the door to hell.
I mean what to say, there are so many pre assumptions about who we are but none of them is true. You are a living being who is breathing the same air as men yet your presence is so criticised. What impact do these statements put over the budding perspective towards the world? They only carve a paralysed psyche.
Women are enslaved to the last core of their existence. They are not capable of asking the question that why can’t a man stay with me after marriage at my home? You must be thinking too big a deal because we all are termed to think in one direction and that is from the male perspective. Why would somebody think of leaving his comfort when the have got the “rightly” conditioned world.
I mean why love does come to her life with conditions, why would she get married only when she is asked to leave her whole world behind? What is love if not in true sense it takes her happy and grow. Why does she have to part away from one chapter of her life to get connected to other. Does it not it show that she is enslaved by the male psyche. When we hear of the word marriage the picture that comes in our head is a woman leaving behind her house for a new beginning. Why this ‘new beginning’ falls in her part only?
There are so many ways through which we can dismantle patriarchy, I would love to see a day where there will be equality. Where they both choose collectively who wants to stay with whom post marriage and not the imposition of the thought of leaving her family over the woman only.
Let’s collect those blooming flowers in the garden keeping in mind their essence fragrances the environment instead of conditioning them on the basis of their sex. She deserves equal nurture and opportunities to be herself just as him. Do not deprive her of basic education, do tell her that she is asked to leave her family post marriage is only because there is patriarchy.
You have beautifully made this a pious act while she is leaving her home that she can’t even raise question about it. Let her measure the depth of the water as well along with flying with the birds. That’s your responsibility to educate her rightly. Only saying you have equal rights does not empower. Instead providing with detailed solution to each arena where equality is lacking is quality education. Provide them with it instead of selling your PR strategies to the books of the shaping minds.
There is so much more to talk about, like unpaid labour which is mostly done by women. They work in offices and after their work hours they work in the household. I mean how demotivating it is for a being your work hours just does not end. Along with that they are also not allowed to take control of their earnings, specially when it comes to supporting your family after marriage. Don’t raise your daughter’s to be the slaves but raise them to be empowered.
Don’t ‘let your wife do’ instead support them in this collective venture of life. Her personality might different, when you are in relationship don’t expect your female partner to leave her house post marriage. She might not be ‘that person’, be sensitive enough to respect her priorities. She isn’t a slave that came to your life with terms. It was a sheer act of love. Do not corrupt that. I have a lot to say but will conclude it with two words only ’empower her’.