Every day, you have to pay for being a woman, and people don’t leave a single chance to make you objectified. As a woman, we need to fight for our identity every moment. If you have even a teeny-tiny chance to get your identity, go for it. Never lose your identity by being only someone’s sister, daughter, mother or wife. Trust me, you are much more than that.
After fighting for centuries, we started getting a handful of freedom, so why waste it over the dramas at the house? People will screech, yell at you, and maybe sometimes disrespect you.
If you make your own identity, you don’t need them to justify your stand. Last year in India, 30% of complaints were raised by the NCW (National Commission for Women), which is around 23700 cases in 2021 and raised to 20800 cases in the year 2022.
Most are complaints under the law of “protection of women against domestic violence.” Though, many people don’t file any complaint about domestic violence, as they feel ashamed to get this thing out, or their family doesn’t support them by saying, “you have to stay in the marriage under the name of family reputation.” Even elite and rich people also suffer from domestic violence without saying a single word due to the terror of society.
It doesn’t matter whether you are highly educated or unschooled; women have been objectified for eras; they are being raped, molested, murdered, traded, or swapped for people’s life.
In earlier eras, kings married multiple marriages and had maids to entertain them sexually, then there was a kingdom in Uttar Pradesh where a king used to sleep with a newly-married bride before she went to her husband’s house. Many more stories like that are real, only the oldest people from the town will tell you how much women have suffered. Kingdoms used to trade their girls by marrying an old king just to maintain peace in the kingdoms or surroundings.
Later, girls started getting molested by their relatives or family members at a very young age; even at that age, she didn’t know what molestation or sexual exploitation (under the name of “Let’s play ghar-ghar or doctor-doctor.”) was. Then they started getting married at an early age, getting pregnant even though they did not live their childhood properly, and they needed to handle another household like a servant.
After some time, the generation changed. They start going to school, where a few creepy teachers started taking favours for good marks or blackmailing them into making them fail or, for many other reasons, they got molested at schools, on the streets, in offices, in-home, and so more.
Not at all. There isn’t a single place where she could feel safe, whether at home, office, streets, school, hospital, or her own home. Then domestic violence makes their soul damaged, and the extramarital affairs of their husband or other cases break them from the inside.
How much a person can tolerate? And why is it required to tolerate? Why to objectified yourself? Why be an object of men’s toys? Why suffer or handle domestic violence? Stop it just after the one time or raise your voice against it because society doesn’t give you birth, and you aren’t answerable to them.
We are the only people who are creating society by being a part of it. If you are tolerating any torture, then think about what you are leaving for your children and what legacy they will follow. To whom will they look up to? You are making them learn to be quiet and tolerate such traumas, so please stop.
It doesn’t matter whether you want to be single, divorced, married or dependent. It should be an individual’s choice. However, we all need to be independent so that if such a situation comes up, we don’t need to look for parental support or anyone to care for us. Therefore, we all need to be independent enough.
This is our right, and we need to own our lives. If you don’t lead your life, someone else will drive it according to their choices and conditions.
Better it; you own it!