This piece is complex but the clarity of thought process for heterosexuality and situationship is simple. ‘Heterosexuality’ means sexually or romantically attracted to the person of opposite sex and ‘Situationship’ refers to that space which is between a committed relationship and something which is more than a friendship. And so am I this person who fits into this category? That’s the secret but, this article can definitely give you some insight on it.
Why is this tendency starting now? “Culturally, our expectations of partnerships have evolved; people marry later in life, and many people are willing to explore relationships in a less formal setting without feeling the desire to commit, as they prioritize self-knowledge and growing as individuals. To the extent that both parties are comfortable with leaving things open, reducing the pressure to define what the relationship is and isn’t can be liberating. On the other hand, being unsure about where you stand may be damaging, particularly if one party demands a greater level of commitment. This ambiguity frequently causes one to experience doubt, anxiety, irritation, resentment, helplessness, and perhaps even depression.
These “SHIPS” comes with waves of different frequencies, such as, undefined reality, inconsistency, no future, superficial connection, no exclusivity, based on convenience and not determination. For few these works just fine but for those who doesn’t understand the cons can be damaging. In the world where exclusivity and intention are artificial, these things can be liberating to explore oneself without exposing much or rather less.
Now what is the connection of heterosexuality and situationship here? Nothing. It can happen with anyone of any sexuality but, it does determine my position. Have I been in this position, partially yes. So, what happened with me?
Everything was beautiful but, the part where I thought it would not affect me was the only part where I was wrong. It affected me to evolve my thinking into this being who self-prioritised herself, loved herself in the process, thought about herself in the process, thought about herself first. I evolved into a lady because I went to the deep ends of downhill where I felt worthless, not worthy enough to be even called a friend in someone’s life, to the extent of such deterioration where I listened that my words doesn’t matter because, the other party was not interested into listening about anything I said. It did damage to me, to the person who was weak. This obnoxious feeling couldn’t let me sleep at nights at many times but then, I came to realise my own worth, learned the way of people treating each other and what not do.
But, this person was no less than a great friend or guardian in my life! Now, why am I stating this? Because, the world is fake and my situationship was true. My heterosexuality made me take the decision, the decision which I took and was not imposed upon me. I learned for the first time that my decision or consent means something to someone and that am not being manipulated by anyone with wrong intention but a pure agreement. Did he treated me bad? No. I did that to me, if am taking the decision for myself then how could I blame someone for my actions?
That person was teaching me that, in fact he protected me from the wrongness the world was offering. Due to his presence, I focused on myself and learned to rely on myself. I was not romantically involved but I was attached and so this person. He cared in a way which made me mentally strong, he shared his experience which made me stand rock solid, he taught me the way of bliss and finding happiness around myself, in me and not in others. Calm and composure is still very far from my life but at the end of this all, I will learn that as well.
My situationship was unlikely romantic, caring, childish and friendly. It should not have lasted but it did because I evolved, we evolved in the process. Sometimes, everything has an equal and opposite reaction but sometimes it depends on you and how you take things.