Bollywood movies these days are presented in a manner they have no base. This is the statement we all hear every now and then. Also, the trailers are presented in a manner the whole story is revealed before you sit to watch them. I hope many people will agree with this. If not, I am not here to start a debate on this. I just want to pour my heart into a storyline that I appreciated after a long and will try to do it with a minimum of spoilers.
In life no matter what our age is, or how rich and successful we are, the ultimate truth about life is death. Sometimes death comes with shattering many lives connected by blood or by deeds. I am talking about the movie Unnchai starer Amitabh Bachchan, Boman Iran, Anupam Kher , Danny, Neena Gupta, Parineeti Chopra and Sarika. A few other supporting characters.
The movie not only has a strong plot but also deep lessons about life.
I tried to reflect on a few and share them here with you all. Please take out a little time and share your views.
1. Understanding is a process in relationships
Often as a child, I hear a taunt “aajkal ke bache ye- aajkal ke bache vo”: Amitabh Ji as Amit gave a gyaan ki moti batein as when we as parents can leave or keep away our children from certain events by saying this is for elders then why when we get old it is difficult for them or maybe for us when we will be old to accept when the kids say we want to celebrate or attend a certain ceremony without the elders. Many households are still holding on to this that a child is supposed to follow what they impose. Living life on their own terms makes them close to each other and it indeed develops an understanding we all want. So it is high time we must stop imposing what happened to us when we were a child or what was imposed on us. Can we become the wave of change? Can we love our children with how they are and what they want to do?
2. A marriage doesn’t mean all life we must rely on just each other
The major rule for marriage is to live and let live. Most of the time it is expected from both genders to leave the life they used to once they are married. And more often it is expected from the wife to end her personal choices and start living entirely for the new family, husband and for their children. And in all this, the entire life passes in a jiffy. In a marriage, it is very important to learn to live with each other, for each other and also sometimes without each other too. To taste the food you love as an individual, to shop for yourself every now and then so that you won’t forget your favourite style and colour. Life is extremely unpredictable so with a loss it is always difficult to move on but it becomes more difficult when we forget to learn to live without each other.
3. Sometimes or often there is no tomorrow
This is something I relate to the extreme as I got married 3 years ago and since then I tried to give every possible happiness to my parents, sometimes by celebrating the major events, sometimes planning for important future events, but you know what, what I have today is just what I spent is last 3 years with them as the future planning just washed away with the sudden demise of my mother. I am somewhere glad; I could celebrate small states of happiness and events with her. I made short videos of her laughing out loud and clicked pictures of her smiling face. Sometimes we say we have time, but sometimes hardly we do. Living lives on your own terms is important but while doing so always try to intact the real-time we have in hand. Sometimes planning for the future is not what we actually get to celebrate. Life lies more today and less in future. The movie is yet another example of “har pal yahan jee bhar ke jiyo; kya pata kal ho na ho?”
4. No matter what we can’t become that plate of perfect Raajma Chawal everyone loves
Growing up we usually make many people upset by the decisions we make. Some will understand us, some won’t. They might have their own Uunchai (heights) )in life to climb. Accept the fact, that we can’t make everyone happy and that’s okay! That just doesn’t mean one shouldn’t try, try but if it doesn’t work then it is better to leave with patience. Time sometimes heals and sometimes helps us to forget.
5. Forgiving is sanity:
In life, mistakes happen. It might take us a decade or whole life to let go of a mistake but better ones should take note of it. Not everyone has the talent to live for their loved ones. Some have the wish to live for themselves first and that doesn’t make them selfish or bad. They are just different and have the guts to live their life as per their terms and not the society dictates them to do so. Whole my life I see life as either black or white but the truth is it is sometimes neither of it nor is it grey. It is just different. Also, if we are not able to forgive someone that too doesn’t mean we love them any less. Just that people have different ways to grieve.