Marriage is complex but integral topic of ordinary social life. It’s a common phenomenon of our Indian culture.
Here I remember a very touching line
“sun raaza shadi ladoo motichoor ka jo khayain pachtayain jo na khyain pachtayain.”
3 months ago, I met with my school days friend Shilpa Verma, who is my close friend. We were very excited as we met after a long time. The discussion was going on and I was just listening to her continuously.
She shared about her married life which is full of trouble she is well educated and very descent still she was facing these sorts of issues. She shared that after covid she lost her job due to so many glitches and her husband is earning very well even though he is disturbed and she felt ignored and isolated. which hurts her many times I understood her problem and advised her that you just discuss it with her husband.
then she told me he always said that we need lots of money to live a luxurious life.
I was pretty annoyed after listening to this sort of statement by her husband I still remember when she got married and was on cloud nine that her husband us giving her a safe secure and prosperous life after 5 years of marriage all of issues are coming in their married life.
I suggested to her that you tell him that you need a little break to charge you up as I will get the best offer, I will surely join till then we can lead a simple yet peaceful life.
She got the point that she will tell her husband that we cut the cost according to clothes otherwise we can suffer a financial crisis in upcoming days which is of course not a suitable choice as this also invites lots of controversies in their married life.
After a long discussion, she heaved a sigh of relief and said that yes we need an open discussion rather than arguments.
As we have to understand each other for leading a beautiful journey of married life.
Then she also cut down her extra expenses as this is the right way to teach any lesson to anyone you just follow all these first so you can say to someone else.
Initially, her husband did not understand as changes come suddenly in life but we humans might take little time to adapt to certain changes. During that period I am continuously talking to her so she can maintain a healthy mind for healthy living and I hope her husband would be able to understand her mental condition and let her live in her own zone soon.