Many parents who emotionally, verbally and psychologically abused their children till they became teenagers and adults, will resort to disrespecting and abusing them even more, by saying things like: “You need treatment!”, “You need to see a counselor”, other such things.
These inconsiderate humans don’t understand they have abused the person so much, that the person doesn’t want to share things with them.
If one has grown up in an atmosphere where they were constantly abused, disrespected, belittled, threatened and humiliated; their parents made them feel unwanted, worthless and useless; and resorted to saying things like: “get out of my house, this is my bread and my money, get out!”, it’s surely hard for the children to be vocal about their feelings.
It’s hard to talk to someone who has constantly, emotionally and verbally abused you; yelled at you ever since you were a child; and has insulted you due to a lack of self-control, good manners, considerate behavior, human skills and effective communication, on their part.
This doesn’t mean necessary conversations must be avoided, but there is no pressure to be on the same page as your abuser. You’re not insane. You don’t need treatment; you just need guidance, like every other person does.
In fact, the more successful you are, the more advisors and mentors’ suggestions and instructions you must seek. Because, after your success, much will be there to lose, thus, is at stake.
Please don’t view talking to a trustworthy therapist as a demeaning, disrespectful and bad, just because such parents picture visiting counselors as something only “insane” people do.
A person needs psychological rest. And, parents must be questioned for their crimes, harassment, abuse and disrespect, in a verbally violent, destructive and persistent manner. This shatters the mental health of people they interact with, especially their children.
But, it doesn’t have to be like that, if one is very careful with how one soaks in the information. Learn to selectively ignore and block out that which is toxic, poisonous and destructive. Take the good, leave the bad!
Don’t become a parent unless you’re fit to be a parent; engage in higher development so you don’t make the mistakes your parents did, regardless of them being abusers or not.
Also, please don’t resort to revenge with such parents. Rather, I believe that you should be patient and channel your energy towards become massively successful. I think one should be respectful towards their parents who have been abusive in the past.
There’s no need to disrespect them. In my opinion, the need is for you to shine so bright, the sun becomes envious of you. You can do this through becoming the best version of yourself.