Today, when I went out with my friend, we were discussing really funny facts of life: about how people judge someone on first looks. I told her that I discussed the same topic the previous day at our department with my colleagues too. Everyone had their own opinions: a few say that boys look for girls who can manage their family well and girls look for a well-settled man. All of them disagree with the assertion that looks or appearance can’t be the first thing to judge anyone by, which is my usual point of view on these things. What a very few say is that no one judges anyone by their unconscious behaviour. I am weird. After a long conversation, we all end on this one single note.
This day, I didn’t end on this note. I continued my discussion with my discussion-buddy, who not only listened to my point of view, but also put forth her own views on the matter with much gusto and authenticity.
As we continued our discussion, I told her that I heard from somewhere that if we don’t go on a date thinking that it is a date, then there will be no pressure of being judged (as we feel the same pressures on a date that we feel in interviews). In interviews, we have to be impressive, we must represent ourselves in our best form. These things we do on a date, too. We dress up well. We behave well. We are expected to eat with sophistication.
Do we really need this pressure? What fun is there if someone can’t love you in your worst attire and in their first impression? Where is the excitement if someone does not like you when you angry on a third person or arguing with them. Pray, where is the spark there?
I believe as a matter of fact that Allah made us all in pairs. Rather than finding someone then, who can perfectly manage your family and your life, we must find someone who is not entirely perfect for oneself, who can’t manage your family alone, who doesn’t understand you completely.
A very great line said by someone: Life should be full of ups and downs because a straight line is an indication that you are dead.
Love is a journey that beings with knowing each other’s imperfections and ends with loving these imperfections.