We live in a hypocrite society where love marriage is still not considered acceptable. In this article, I would like to share my personal experience about how I am protecting my secret ‘love affair’ from my family and friends. I would like to share my piece of advice to you so that you can also manage things similarly.
I had fallen deeply in love with a girl from another state. I talked to her over the phone and we started talking for hours and we both openly shared our past experiences in life. During the conversation, I found her very innocent and cute in nature. The moment when I felt the emotional and spiritual bonding with her, I decided to travel to her place and meet her personally. I travelled along with my parents to UP, Bijnor from Hyderabad.
When we reached her home and met each one of her family members, I was very impressed by their friendly, helping, and humble nature. When both our family sat together over dinner, they decided to engage in a new relationship. After all, in Indian tradition, families meet together and get married first. Then later, boys and girls are allowed to share the common platform with them.
Kashifa, my soulmate, and I exchanged rings. After witnessing the event, all of her siblings organized a small party. They played music at a high volume and for the first time, I sang a few of my favourite songs and recited some shayari. Everything was well-organized but after returning, what happened turned my life upside down.
Like I mentioned earlier, I had not revealed my story to any of my relatives. When I came here, all of them were asking about the journey and about this sudden ‘engagement news’ that spread elsewhere. Even though my mother tried her best to confront them in a peaceful manner and remain neutral, they did not relent.
I felt that my conservative family, including aunts and uncles, are not truly accepting my love marriage and realised how they might be restricting their children too. I understood that no matter how truthful, obedient, and straightforward you be to your people, they don’t accept because of their wicked reasons or narrow-minded perspectives.
Their unwarranted ridiculous behaviour could turn out to be a curse in anyone’s happily-married life. That is why I personally suggest to all my readers that do not let anyone from your family and friend circle have extreme dominance over you and your loved ones.