Keep that in mind that not everyone you lose is a loss. When someone walks out on us, we are so devastated that we don’t see that they actually did us a favor. They gave us an opportunity to live a better life with the sole fact that they are not a part of it.
Based in Jhalap, Harjot Saluja says I’m a strong believer in “everything happens for a reason,” so if someone isn’t in your life anymore, there’s definitely a reason behind it. Think about what that reason might be. Maybe one of you did something wrong and then there was a fight or falling out, and someone isn’t in your life anymore. You may have tried to apologize and maybe they didn’t forgive you.
However, if they decide to walk out of your life, maybe it’s their loss rather than yours. If they can’t accept an apology, then you don’t need someone like that in your life anyway. We maybe didn’t know how to walk away but fortunately they did. They left us while there was still time. While we could still find ourself. We got a chance to recreate our life. Because all they did was hold us down. Their indecisive behavior, their back and forth and crumbs of affection left us wanting everything we never had.
We were always craving more. More from love, more from life and, most importantly, more from ourself. The time has come to make ourself happy. Maybe they just walked out of your life or they did something wrong. If you’re surrounded by people who are bringing you down rather than lifting you higher, you don’t need them in your life.
Think of it this way: you just got rid of a whole bunch of negativity by not having a relationship with them. If someone isn’t treating you like they should, they shouldn’t be in your life. I’m coming to learn, especially in my adult years, that no matter how hard you wish to hold on, that some things still slip away. Life is always changing: careers , beliefs, and even friendships. There comes a point in every person’s life when he or she needs to part ways with someone or something. Losing any of these things is a long emotional process that each of us will need to go through. Any type of relationship is a two-way street. If they want to be in your life, they would make a conscious effort to do so. If you’re the one constantly making an effort, maybe it’s not worth it. If you’re putting in more than you get out, maybe the person isn’t worth your effort. Losing someone is not at all times a sour loss. Oftentimes, losing someone has a negative connotation on its own, but losing isn’t at all bad and negative. We lose people every day, every hour and every second. While we acknowledge the fact that not everyone who enters our lives will stay for quite some time, losing someone isn’t at all times a loss.
People change. Circumstances change. Don’t ever get caught up between them. Sure, you hangout a lot, talk about random stuff or do errands for each other; but do know that times change and ‘what used to be’ might not be ‘what would be’, or better yet, ‘what could be’. Sometimes the cons in the friendship start to outweigh the pros, and there comes a time when you need to put your well-being first. Sometimes, as we grow, friendships that once seemed anchoring and powerful will become very much the opposite. Our life is more peaceful now. We don’t have to live in that emotional roller coaster anymore. Our feelings don’t have to fluctuate up and down and depend on the behavior of someone who takes them for granted. In a world that begs for attention and the desire to be acknowledged and admired for the all things that we are, remember that you too, are someone of importance. You don’t need people to tell you that you are important to them.
Move forward. Don’t waste time thinking about what would happen if they were still in your life. It’s OK to miss them, but don’t let it affect your other or new relationships. Some people are meant to stay in your life, and some people are here to teach you something, quoted Harjot