Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or revenge towards a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. …Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses.
When you bear a grudge against someone, it is almost as if you carry that person on your back and that load drain your energy, your peace of mind, your enthusiasm, your passion your everything but the moment you forgive that person, you get him off from your back and you feel composed & relaxed.
I agree that sometimes, it’s very hard to forgive someone for something they’ve done that’s hurt you, but believe me forgiveness has a lot of benefits and this is the only way to heal.
When you feel hard to forgive someone, put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Try to understand from their point of view as to why they hurt you. Maybe they’re going through something you don’t know about.
If you aren’t ready to forgive someone; just take some time to think about it. If you decide you are ready, but you’re having trouble working through the steps, you can talk about the situation with people you trust. An outsider’s perspective can help shed new light on things.
Alternatively, you may write down your thoughts and emotions, it will be clearer once they’re on paper. Forgiveness isn’t always an easy process, but it’s understandable if you struggle with it.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Forgiveness is a blessings for me. :