By Cake Staff:
Remember that episode in “Friends” when Joey is really attached to what looks like a satchel but is called a ‘man purse’? It was funny to watch but it is indeed an interesting phenomenon that has people on the internet up in arms about our idea of gender norms, expression and hegemonic masculinity.
It took this hashtag #MasculinitySoFragile to point out [envoke_twitter_link]how masculinity is sold commercially[/envoke_twitter_link]. There are many examples of how there is a need to make items already being sold in the market more ‘manly’. All of this is done while essentialising notions of what constitutes being a ‘man’ thereby problematically linking gender expression to gender identity (eg. Only if you go to a ‘man cave’ to get a manicure, will you be considered a man.)
The following are a few of the ridiculous examples that the Twitterverse knows is purely pathetic:
Today’s Special: Gourmet Gendered Food…
Finally! Gendered muesli.
A precious addition to my #fragilemasculinity collection pic.twitter.com/THmOn4P0y2
— Kübra (@ranxi) August 15, 2016
Masculinity too fragile to admit you like cooking? Well, here's the book for you: pic.twitter.com/KwcluzbmbG
— Martin Costello 🏳️🌈🇪🇺🪿 (@martin_costello) August 14, 2016
https://twitter.com/_beanatron_/status/712661467225591808
…And Drinks
https://twitter.com/senatordouville/status/702552962309103618
Giving Or Getting Gifts Are No Longer Taboo *wipes sweat*
https://twitter.com/ValeriaLeivaa/status/684780008368410625
https://twitter.com/ashfranz_/status/765219289985060864
Nuts Ain’t Fragile Guys
https://twitter.com/decorcione/status/763816432241082369
https://twitter.com/jonnajarian/status/759134055854141440
Better Work As Well As Vanish On Those Undies
https://twitter.com/jaredbeverly/status/765292467713286144
No One’s Judgin’. Only You Are.
In conclusion, it was a lovely day, and masculinity is super fragile. pic.twitter.com/ToaP0xKhE0
— 🛣Cherie On My Wayward Sons👬🏼 (@cheriemorte) August 15, 2016
No. No no no. Masculinity so god damn fragile.https://t.co/GAwzyjLB7U
— i'm back? i guess? (@charlesthomas) August 16, 2016
https://twitter.com/sxtanbaby/status/765286506873364480
[envoke_twitter_link]Masculinity, like femininity, can be placed on a spectrum[/envoke_twitter_link] in terms of gender expression and it is different from gender identity. Patriarchy is a funny thing. Not only does it infringe upon the rights and spaces of cisgender and trans people but it also pushes men to have to enforce and reaffirm toxic notions of what constitutes masculinity. Certain products and services are associated with being inherently feminine and thereby subservient, so there seems to be a need for men to distance themselves from that.
But let’s not forget that the rise of these kinds of products has something to do with the culture of shaming that we are guilty of creating. It’s time we stop that kind of shaming so that [envoke_twitter_link]men can use wipes, not ‘dude’ wipes, and detergent, not ‘heavy-duty’ detergent[/envoke_twitter_link].